You Want Them to Love Learning

As I write this, we’re still basking in the glow of post-Christmas merriment (read – NO SCHOOL). It’s a glorious time to get the house back into order, catch up on some busy work, and to let the kids do whatever kids like to do (read – NOT VIDEO GAMES).

I know because I keep my ear to the rail that so many homeschooling moms struggle through these wonderful times because they feel the guilt of shirking school responsibilities. I read their posts and hear their hearts. They press on at times where they should rest because they fear . . . EVERYTHING.

They’re afraid their kids will get behind. Afraid that they’ll forget what they learned. Afraid that they won’t ever lead productive lives, get into college, or land successful careers. That drives them to push, cram, and stuff as much school into their kids’ lives and heads as humanly possible. They’re susceptible to every “expert” and philosophy that shows up in homeschool conventions and social media posts.

The homeschool movement coined and promoted the idea of fostering a love of learning . . . and yet most homeschooling moms have fostered a “hate” of learning. Instead of inspiring their children to love exploration, discovery, and learning, all of which homeschooling SHOULD foster, moms find their children fighting them tooth and nail to “do school.”

Let me just say from the start that I BELIEVE homeschooling should foster the love of learning in our children. Its very design enables learning to be experienced in a way NO public or private school can provide. So why is it not the case in most homeschools?

I think the answer is simple. We’ve believed and adopted some ideas that are not true and that kill inspiration and the love of learning:

– Longer is better.

– More is better.

– Earlier is better.

– Harder is better.

– Classics are better.

– Busy is better.

– Textbooks are better.

– Standard courses are better.

– A is better.

Let’s just look at a few of those WRONG ideas.

Longer is better. – We’ve been taught wrongly that if our kids spend more time doing something, they’ll learn more. That’s just not true. And even if they did learn more, they often end up hating the very thing they spent so much time doing. I’d even go as far as to say SHORTER is better.

Think about all the articles, posts, and YouTube videos out there. They’re short, brief, and cut away all the fat. That’s because more learning takes place in smaller chunks. Your mind (and the minds of your children) starts to cloud over after a while until learning stops along with the enjoyment.

So practically that means spending a shorter day of homeschooling is better than spending a longer day. Yes, you can be done with the “book learning” by noon, even in higher grades. It also means your individual subjects and lessons are shorter. An hour of math, science, or anything else is too long. Don’t tell me why I’m wrong and that your kids have to spend more time to get it. It’s an excuse and kills learning.

More is better. – I’ll just say right off: More is worse, and less is better. Especially at the beginning. I’d rather my children know that dolphins can jump high, swim fast, and do a lot of other cool things than to tell me what kingdom, class, phylum, whatever they’re in. That stuff is boring and only used if your child becomes a biologist or textbook writer.

Keep the subjects shallow at first so they can get a taste of what they might like to learn more about later. Don’t sweat the technical stuff; expose them to the engaging parts. I often wonder how many kids who liked plants got turned off on plants because all the textbooks talk about is the pistols and stamens . . . forgetting the cool plants that eat insects, close up at a human touch, or live to be 5,000 years old.

Earlier is better. – What is with homeschoolers and trying to get a jump on the rest of the world in learning? I can’t tell you how many parents come up and say, “I’m burnt out on homeschooling, . . . and my child is four.” Then I learn they’re doing five hours of school each day and they’re reading chapter books.

Yes, I know some kids get it early . . . but maybe even then EARLY isn’t better. Maybe it’s better to have young children who play instead of do school, middle schoolers who still work on multiplication instead of Algebra, and kids who graduate at 18 instead of 15.

There is nothing noble about beating everyone to the end of the race. In fact, I believe if we start too early and push too hard, it kills the love of learning. Just relax . . . and let your kids move at their own pace. If you have a child who you think is a school whiz, you might even apply the brakes slightly so they can enjoy being a child just a little bit longer because some of those kids who can handle the “upper courses” can’t handle the emotional pressure that comes with it.

Are you starting to get the idea? To inspire your children, keep school short, make the topics broad, give them lots of time to explore and discover, and keep video games to a bare minimum. (*You decide what’s too much. I’m thinking an hour a day is too much. Maybe a couple times a week or on the weekends, but don’t fall into the trap that free time equals video time. Video games kill exploration and learning.)

And if you aren’t smiling and your kids aren’t smiling, there is no love of learning taking place.